Thanks where thanks is due

I want to take the time to thank the people who have looked out for me through all of this. Through the haze of depression and anxiety, it can be really easy to feel alone and abandoned. I've spent a lot of time hiding what was going on from people, and when I haven't been, I've been pretty temperamental and sensitive. I guess I'm still really scared and I'm responding to that by withdrawing and hiding. But so many people have stuck with me and grown with me regardless, and I really appreciate them for it. I understand that it isn't easy seeing me in a new way, when I've been Jessica and female in everybody's eyes for 19 years, but I'm so much happier than I ever was before. Even though I hate my body and I feel uncomfortable in my own skin, I feel like, for the first time, I'm being truly honest with myself and with the people that I love.

I don't know if I would have had the courage to keep going with this if it weren't for my friends and family. I am truly blessed to have you all in my life.

-JJ

PS: I do have a small update fashion wise. I finally got the eyebrow piercing that I've been waiting on for almost a year, and I couldn't be happier with it. I think that one way my piercings help me is that they allow me to take control of my body and make it look the way I want to look. I'm hoping to get my cartilage pierced after my next show closes, but in the mean time, I'm happy staring at the area right above my eye every ten seconds.

PPS: (LOL PP :D) My research on binders has revealed that they're really f*cking expensive. If anyone would be willing to chip in a couple dollars to help me buy one, I'd be super grateful. 

This is gonna be harder than I thought

I've spent a lot of time thinking about the blog this weekend, and I'm beginning to realize how nervous I really am. When I was female identified, I had a very established sense of style, and I had learned how to turn heads and really feel confident in the way I dressed. I really liked the way I looked, and it's scary thinking about giving that up and completely remaking something that I've spent so long on. While I wasn't happy with my style because I was mostly using it to pass, I did know what I was doing, and now I really don't know where to start. I feel like I have no guidance and no one willing to be the one laughing with me when my experiments don't work out so well. 

I've decided to put actively buying things on hold until I can get a hold of a binder that works well for my body shape. In the mean time, I finally got a haircut, and I'm putting together collages of styles of people I admire. My binder should arrive within a few days, so expect an update soon. In the mean time, at the very least, I can rest assured that my new hairstyle is dapper as heck, even if it has not crossed over to the realm of dapperasfuckery yet. 

Stay fabulous, and as ever, I'd love to hear about other peoples' experiences in the comments below. 

-JJ

PS: My glasses broke, and I figure this is a great opportunity to look for something simple to make me more confident and explore my style. Any suggestions for androgynous frames?